By Big Business

Once I started learning Love Systems, I was actually able to pull beautiful women home to my place. But in the meantime, I also got good at making things work by going back to her place. Here are four tips for closing at her place.

1) Find out where she lives.

This step seems obvious, but you'd be surprised how often it is unintentionally left out. When you know where a woman lives, you can plan ahead to deal with the logistical problems you're going to hit later.

Does she live near the venue? Does she have a roommate? Is she in a dorm? Do you know of a cool bar/after hours joint near her place? When you want to bounce her back there, are you going to drive, walk, or take a cab? Even if you end up with a phone number + date instead of going home with her, this info will be useful for when you go out again.

Here are a few scenarios to consider, and ways I've figured out how to deal with them.

* Roommates: When there is a separate bedroom to retreat to, sacrificing a few minutes of conversation to win over the roommate(s) will make your being there a lot more comfortable. After they trust you, you can use any nonsense reason to bounce your girl to her bedroom. "Bet my room is cleaner than yours," is one example.

* Cab ride: If she lives a cab ride away, be sure to keep up the momentum in the car, and continue to build up physical intimacy. If you were touching her arm in the bar, touch her leg in the cab. If you were about to make out in the bar, make out in the cab. Avoid cabs with bucket seats that make physical contact impossible.

* Dorm: If there's a security guard, you can go through the lengthy (and vibe-killing) process of giving him your ID and signing in, or you can tell the girl to slide her card through and sneak in behind her. You get points for being resourceful, and it's exciting because it seems like you're doing something wrong.

* Shared bedroom: There are public bathrooms in dorms and hotels that I have found very accommodating when dealing with shared room situations. Be sure and scan for them when entering, and when it's time to bounce to it, tell the girl that you're "taking her on a field trip."

2) Amp up the physical tension.

This is a huge topic that lots of Love Systems instructors have gone into incredible detail on, but the general principle is important. If you can get a girl sexually excited, then she's going to want to bring you to a place where you can have sex as quickly as humanly possible. At Love Systems we teach everything you need to know to accomplish this goal, from framing the conversation sexually to escalating things physically, but in the meantime here are a few quick pointers to get you started:

* Always end a touch or kiss before they do/want you to.
* Drop the topic of sex into conversation (in a light, joking way) as quickly as possible.
* Start touching the way you'd touch your boss and build to the way you'd touch a girlfriend.

3) "Let's get you home."

It's easy to think of reasons to give a woman why she has to come back to your place. Keep it simple. "Let me show you that book I was talking about," is perfect. It gives her plausible deniability and doesn't tip your hand.

It's harder to do this with her place. "Do you want to take me home with you?" makes you sound like a stray dog, not a man. "Let's go to your place" is totally cliché thanks to every movie from the 1970s. "Let's get out of here" is great if it's obvious and explicit that she wants to have sex, but if you're still flying a bit under the radar or her friends are around, you're going to need something a little more subtle.

Instead, take the lead with "let's get you home." It's a little dominant, it shows you know how to lead, but it also doesn't trigger state breaks. If her friends are around, it implies that you are just going to make sure that she gets home safe. She shouldn't feel any pressure since there's really nothing implied. And if nothing's going to happen, then there's no reason she can't bail on her friends, right?

(If you don't remember state breaks, review Chapter 10 of Magic Bullets now. If you haven't read Magic Bullets, get it. It's the official Love Systems guide to meeting and attracting women, and where most successful guys start. Get it.)

4) Assume you're going upstairs.

There's nothing more awkward than walking a woman home and standing there silent for an eternity waiting for her to invite you up. Avoid this situation by assuming that she'll be bringing you upstairs. Do not pause by the door. Do not say "Well, it was nice hanging out with you." Keep the momentum of the interaction going as though you are still in the process of hanging out.

If she has to invite you in, that's risking a state break.

Of course, there will be times when she suggests that you don't come up, either because she doesn't want to appear easy, or because she thinks letting you upstairs is an implicit agreement that you'll be sleeping together. You can usually defuse this by giving yourself a bedtime. "I've got work in the morning, so I can only come up for a little bit" is one of my favorites. Say this before she even gets a chance to tell you why you can't come in - like you coming in is a foregone conclusion.

To find out more information on closing at the girl's place or getting a girl from the venue back to your place, definitely [checkout the interview series on Logistics].

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Most men are interested in dating science because they want to get better at interacting with beautiful women. Whether your goal is to land a playboy model, or to start dating that cute barista at Starbucks, you need to learn how to sexually progress. Otherwise, you are likely to get the all too familiar “let’s just be friends”. Unfortunately, most men are afraid to act out on their sexual desires, and the result is that they never push any boundaries with women. This causes their game to plateau below their potential, leaving the best opportunities to those willing to push the limits.

A good parallel is with an athlete trying to improve their skills. I have a friend who white water kayaks, and he was telling me about his adventures. If he never paddled rapids out of his comfort zone, he would still be kayaking on dinky one foot waves. Instead, he goes out with friends that he can learn from, and makes sure he paddles a section of the river that is just a little bit out of his comfort zone. That way he can improve his skills, while making sure he doesn’t end up in the hospital. Now when he goes white water kayaking, the dangers are real – but he takes constant, yet small steps to take things up a notch. Not surprisingly, the worst thing that has happened to him is a pulled muscle.

In comparison, if you are too afraid to leave your comfort zone while learning to meet women of quality, you will find that the quality of women you approach is always low (i.e. your version of the dinky one foot wave). It’s safe but not very fun, and you will never improve.

Much like a kayaker challenging himself to find the perfect wave, you must push the limits of sexual escalation before you can find the right balance. Without ever pushing too far or too fast, you will never know if you are pushing fast or far enough. When you don’t get the result you wanted with a woman, make note of it, and then you adjust your approach for next time.

A prerequisite for being able to progress with women is understanding that they enjoy sex just as much as men – they just take a different route towards sex. All one needs to do is pick up a copy of “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday to have this epiphany .The book is an evocative collection of fantasies sent to Friday by normal, everyday women.

Now that I’ve covered some of the background on sexual escalation I am going to provide some practical tips:

You Don’t Need “Big Moves”

When meeting women you should always be commanding a sexual presence. Your two best tools for this are speech and body language. To start off, try holding your initial handshake for a second longer than normal while keeping eye contact. After that, try calibrating her to see if she is receptive to your sexual overtones. When talking, keep a slow pace, measured pace, and make sure to use pauses to add effect. Have fun with this – you can even try ordering a coffee using sexual subtext.

By immediately creating a sexual presence and calibrating the situation you can quickly screen for a women’s sexual openness. That way, if she doesn’t respond you can quickly move on to something else.

Leave Them Better Than You Found Them

This is a principle I have always operated under, and I cannot stress this enough. Don’t make a girl do something she doesn’t want to do – she should feel great doing even the most “dirty” things. Make her feel like she is sharing in a fun, exciting sexual adventure with you.

This also applies to setting the right frame for later on when you progress further. If there is something you want to happen down the road, make her feel good about it. Tell her “you would look so hot doing …” or “the most fun I ever had with a woman was doing…” Those sorts of statements will create positive associations with whatever sex act you are talking about.

Most women derive pleasure from pleasing someone they like. Let her know you are enjoying whatever she is doing to/for/with you. Tell her “I love the way you do that” or “you look really sexy doing that”. It is important to be supportive of a woman as you progress with her. Men that express their sexual desires without any regard for the woman are considered to be sleazy, and you don’t want to fall into that group. This sort of disregard for women is also a good way of guaranteeing there will be no repeat performances.

Creating the Right State of Mind

To successfully progress with a woman, you must demonstrate to her that you want her, but that you do not need her. This is another example of the importance of finding the right balance. If you pretend you are not interested whatsoever, she will move on to someone else, or just peg you as a friend. However, if you act needy towards her, she will be turned off. Beautiful women like a little bit of a challenge. That is where wanting comes in – make it clear that while you are interested in her sexually, you live in a state of abundance, and will meet your needs somewhere else if she doesn’t respond to you. Basically, you must always be willing to walk away.

Finally, I know I’ve written about this before, but it is essential to remember that this is all a part of one great learning process. There is no such thing as rejection – only feedback. As you start to push the limits of sexual escalation, keep track of how women are reacting. Be confident, have fun with it, and keep escalating faster and further until you have to bring things down a notch – that is when you know you are starting to approach the right balance in your game.

Jeremy Soul

About Author: Jeremy Soul is widely recognized as the foremost authority on meeting and attracting women during the daytime, aka Day Game. He is the creator of the Love Systems Day Game Workshop, the author of the forthcoming book Daytime Dating, and is one of the most respected and admired Dating Coaches in the world. Dating can be a mine-field, so get help from Jeremy Soul at http://www.lovesystems.com

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Most men are interested in dating science because they want to get better at interacting with beautiful women. Whether your goal is to land a playboy model, or to start dating that cute barista at Starbucks, you need to learn how to sexually progress things. Otherwise, you are likely to get the all too familiar “let’s just be friends”. Unfortunately, most men are afraid to act on their sexual desires, and the result is that they never push any boundaries with women. This causes their dating skill to plateau below their potential, leaving the best opportunities to those willing to push the limits.

A good parallel is with an athlete trying to improve their skills. I have a friend who white water kayaks, and he was telling me about his adventures. If he never paddled rapids out of his comfort zone, he would still be kayaking on dinky one foot waves. Instead, he goes out with friends that he can learn from, and makes sure he paddles a section of the river that is just a little bit out of his comfort zone. That way he can improve his skills, while making sure he doesn’t end up in the hospital. Now when he goes white water kayaking, the dangers are real – but he takes constant, yet small steps to take things up a notch. Not surprisingly, the worst thing that has happened to him is a pulled muscle.

In comparison, if you are too afraid to leave your comfort zone while learning to meet women of quality, you will find that the quality of women you approach is always low (i.e. your version of the dinky one foot wave). It’s safe but not very fun, and you will never improve.

Much like a kayaker challenging himself to find the perfect wave, you must push the limits of sexual progression before you can find the right balance. Without ever pushing too far or too fast, you will never know if you are pushing fast or far enough. When you don’t get the result you wanted with a woman, make note of it, and then you adjust your approach for next time.

A prerequisite for being able to sexually progress with women is understanding that they enjoy sex just as much as men – they just take a different route towards sex. All one needs to do is pick up a copy of “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday to have this epiphany .The book is an evocative collection of fantasies sent to Friday by normal, everyday women.

Now that I’ve covered some of the background on sexual progression, let’s look at some practical tips:

You Don’t Need “Big Moves”

When meeting women you should always be commanding a sexual presence. Your two best tools for this are speech and body language. To start off, try holding your initial handshake for a second longer than normal while keeping eye contact. After that, try adjusting your speech to see if she is receptive to your sexual overtones. When talking, keep a slow and measured pace, and make sure to use pauses to add sexual effect. Have fun with this – you can even try ordering a coffee using sexual subtext.

By immediately creating a sexual presence and calibrating the situation you can quickly screen for a women’s sexual openness. That way, if she doesn’t respond you can quickly move onto something else.

Leave Them Better Then You Found Them

This is a principle I have always operated under, and I cannot stress this enough. Don’t try to get a girl to do something she doesn’t want to do – she should feel great doing even the most “dirty” things. Make her feel like she is sharing a fun, exciting sexual adventure with you.

This also applies to setting the right tone for later on when you progress further. If there is something you want to happen down the road, make her feel good about it. Tell her “you would look so hot doing …” or “the most fun I ever had with a woman was doing…” Those sorts of statements will create positive associations with whatever sex act you are talking about.

Most women derive pleasure from pleasing someone they like. Let her know you are enjoying whatever she is doing to/for/with you. Tell her “I love the way you do that” or “you look really sexy doing that”. It is important to be supportive of a woman as you sexually progress with her. Men that express their sexual desires without any regard for the woman are considered to be sleazy, and you don’t want to fall into that group. This sort of disregard for women is also a good way of guaranteeing there will be no repeat performances.

Creating the Right State of Mind

To successfully progress things sexually with a woman, you must demonstrate to her that you want her, but that you do not need her. This is another example of the importance of finding the right balance. If you pretend you are not interested whatsoever, she will move onto someone else, or just peg you as a friend. However, if you act needy towards her, she will be turned off. Beautiful women like a little bit of a challenge. That is where wanting comes in – make it clear that while you are interested in her sexually, you live in a state of abundance, and will meet your needs somewhere else if she doesn’t respond to you. Basically, you must always be willing to walk away.

Finally, I know I’ve written about this before, but it is essential to remember that this is all a part of one great learning process. There is no such thing as rejection – only feedback. As you start to push the limits of sexual progression, keep track of how women are reacting. Be confident, have fun with it, and keep progressing faster and further until you have to bring things down a notch – that is when you know you are starting to approach the right balance in your dating skill.

Jeremy Soul

About Author: Jeremy Soul is widely recognized as the foremost authority on meeting and attracting women during the daytime, aka Day Game. He is the creator of the Love Systems Day Game Workshop, the author of the forthcoming book Daytime Dating, and is one of the most respected and admired Dating Coaches in the world. Dating can be a mine-field, so get help from Jeremy Soul at http://www.lovesystems.com

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First of all, when I say “score” I mean sex. Get laid. Just to be clear. We’re not talking here only about getting girls out of your league to give you the time of day, or their phone number, or even land a date. This is a compilation of the best, most balls-out honest tips out there for systematically getting women out of your league into the sack.

Second of all, we’re assuming here that you’re not rich or gorgeous or both (and if any of you a-holes still need help, we don’t got any for you). OK, that said let’s get into it.

1. Wear a wedding band. That’s right. Let her think you’re married. You don’t have to tell her you’re married, unless she asks. Just don’t keep that hand hidden from view (it’s the left one, so you know), and she’ll notice. Trust me, she’ll notice. Chicks go ga-ga for married dudes. Doesn’t matter what he looks like either, it’s not about that. Something about wanting what they can’t have…or what his wife thinks she can’t have. It’s part of that inborn catfighting instinct, and there’s nothing like a wedding ring on a guys finger to put a kitty into heat in a cold snap.

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Hollywood movies would have us believe that meeting the woman of your dreams and making her your girlfriend is easy: meet her in some random place due to fate, be yourself, confess your undying love for her, and you’re in.

Unfortunately, in reality it can be a bit trickier to romance a woman you’re interested in. A beautiful woman has so many guys hitting on her on a daily basis that you need to set yourself apart from the crowd.

Here are 9 ways to make a real impression on a woman when you go on your first date with her.

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