Hollywood movies would have us believe that meeting the woman of your dreams and making her your girlfriend is easy: meet her in some random place due to fate, be yourself, confess your undying love for her, and you’re in.
Unfortunately, in reality it can be a bit trickier to romance a woman you’re interested in. A beautiful woman has so many guys hitting on her on a daily basis that you need to set yourself apart from the crowd.
Here are 9 ways to make a real impression on a woman when you go on your first date with her.
1. Determine the time and place yourself.
Don’t be a wuss and hand control over to the woman. They like us to demonstrate leadership by setting up the logistics ourselves. Suggest a time and place for her to meet you and see if it works for her. Don’t ever ask her, “What would you like to do?”
2. Meeting for a drink is your best bet.
When you go on a date with a woman, you want the focus of it to be good conversation, with the potential for physical intimacy. Drinks is the best for this, as it’s low-key, inexpensive, and doesn’t put social pressure on anyone.
Avoid dinner and the movies at all costs for a first date. They’re both committing a lot of time and resources before you’ve even gotten to know the woman, and are best left for future dates or when she is your girlfriend.
3. Do it on familiar territory.
Ideally, set up the date at a bar relatively close to your place that you know well. If you’ve established some rapport with the bartenders and staff there, it will look good in front of the woman you’re with – it shows you’re a friendly, chatty guy and that other people like you.
Going to a bar reasonably close to where you live makes it easier to ask her to come home with you if things go well later on.
4. Sit next to her, not opposite her.
Sitting opposite a woman on those big tables just makes it more awkward and difficult to connect with her emotionally and physically. Opt for a couch, or a booth seat so you can sit next to each other.
5. Relax and smile
It’s easy to get nervous when you’re on a date with a beautiful woman. It happens to all of us. But if you act nervous, she’ll pick up on that and start to feel nervous and uncomfortable herself. Whenever you get nervous, remember to smile and relax your body language – get comfortable in your chair and don’t fidget.
6. Use emotions to relate to her.
Focus on building an emotional connection between the two of you. Find out about her life, and then relate your own to hers on an emotional level. Women relate to people through emotions as well as logic, so don’t focus as much on the facts of your life as the emotional journeys involved in them.
Stories of challenges you’ve faced, ambitions you have, and dreams you’re chasing are all great conversation fodder.
7. Compliment her personality traits.
Women are frequently chased by men just for their looks, but rarely appreciated for their other qualities. Show yourself to have some standards by letting her know that you find her personality attractive. Give her a few compliments throughout the date on things like her intellect, maturity and confidence.
8. Lead up to the kiss gradually.
Don’t do the “big lunge” at the end of a date in order to kiss her. You’ll put unnecessary pressure on both yourself and her.
Build up to the kiss gradually by touching her lightly on the arm or hand from time to time, sitting closer to her, and eventually brushing the tips of her hair with your hand. If you do these things in sequence over the course of the date, you’ll know whether she wants you to kiss you or not by how she reacts to these smaller physical moves.
9. Ask her back for a drink.
The scariest moments in any interaction with a woman are when you make a move to progress things. If the date has gone well, at some point you want to ask her if she’d like to have a drink at your place.
Don’t be embarrassed to ask. If a woman has enjoyed your company and you’ve kissed her or at the very least there’s been some sexual tension between you, it’s natural to want to take things further. Don’t put pressure on her, just ask politely if she’d like to continue the evening with a drink at your place.
About Author: Jeremy Soul is widely recognized as the foremost authority on meeting and attracting women during the daytime, aka Day Game. He is the creator of the Love Systems Day Game Workshop, the author of the forthcoming book Daytime Dating, and is one of the most respected and admired Dating Coaches in the world. Dating can be a mine-field, so get help from Jeremy Soul at http://www.lovesystems.com
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