An Advanced Technique To Get Phone Numbers

by Roosh V < 1 comment >

I was talking to a girl in the club for two hours. I'm not sure if I really liked her or not, but the club was closing and there was no way her group of five friends were going to let me leave with her.

"It was very nice meeting you." I said. I made it seem like this was my goodbye.

"Hey why don't you give me your number?" she said.

"Why? So you can call me on the phone?"

"Umm yeah," she said.

"I'm not going to give you my number. Since I'm the man, I'll take yours, I guess."

"You guess???"

I smile and get my cell phone out. Even if she didn't offer the number I could get it anyway, but now it will be harder for her to blow me off or flake afterwards if she put herself out there and showed interest in such a strong way.

I believe that if two people like each other they shouldn't want to part ways after just an hour or so. Instead they should choose to continue the conversation onto a second location, wherever that may be.

But there is always logistical issues or social norms that leaves the number as the only option left.

When guys get numbers, they get excited and see it as a potential notch or prospect. I have heard many guys get a number and say, "I'm glad I'm not going home empty handed!" While numbers have potential, they have zero inherent value. Those guys are still going home empty handed.

In fact, I believe a number has negative value because of the time you will spend trying to contact her, and the money you will spend on a date or two until you can figure out if she's trying to have sex or not. A number only has value if there's a certainty that calling the number will lead to a sexual encounter. Only if every number always led to a lay would I be inclined to accept that numbers have worth.

Until we get to that imaginary point, we can increase the value of numbers by changing the way we get them. By showing reluctance in getting the number and not making it the end itself, we actually increase the likelihood that the number will lead to something.

When it's time to say goodbye and you've exhausted your options to take the conversation somewhere else, you want to give the girl an opportunity to show interest and offer her number before you have to do it. You do this by ending the conversation with "It was really nice meeting you" and shutting up. If she does like you, she will squirm and get anxious, and probably make a move like the girl above did.

If she doesn't offer the number outright she may compliment you to encourage you to get it. Even if she doesn't make any move, you can still get the number if you want. Your options remain open.

We are using a similar idea that religions and cults use. To commit members to the cult, simply make them do enough pro-cult actions which they can't rationalize as anything else but undying love for the cult. The more work she puts into you, the more likely she will like you (she can't rationalize otherwise), and the more likely she will have sex with you.

About Author: Rooshv is a straight-talking PUA who happens to also have a degree in microbiology. After starting the successful blog DC Bachelor (which he later changed to Roosh V out of fear that his employers would fire him for the ideas he published) he switched careers and became a full-time sex & dating blogger and guru. His first book is called "Bang". While finishing up work on his second book, he is steadily blogging and leading workshops for men on how to get laid.