Master the Fine Art of Eating a Woman Out… and Have Her Eating Out of the Palm of Your Hand

Ah, cunnilingus. It's the holy grail of sex acts, for both sexes, insofar as raising you above the slushpile of men who just stick it in, shoot, and roll over. Women yearn to find a man who loves to do it and knows how to do it well; men yearn to be the one able to bring women to untold heights of pleasure unattainable with most other men.

You don't need an article to tell you that if you learn how to masterfully eat a woman out, you'll have them eating out of the palm of your hand. But you might need an article to instruct you as to just how to achieve that.

Lucky for you, here is that very guide!

Take your time. Try and rush a woman to orgasm and you'll only make her feel self-conscious for not being able to oblige (either that or you'll frustrate her with your incompetence and, in so doing, turn her off instead of on). Plan not to just dive in and get down to the nitty-gritty. Instead set the stage first, her body being the stage. Either with a massage, a scintillating dessert, or a nice warm shower or bath, you can help her to relax into the pleasure that is to come. And when she starts off relaxed, your job becomes a whole lot easier.

Ease into it. Then, when it's time to get sexual, don't just drop to your knees and stick your tongue into her. Instead start teasing her with other forms of genital stimulation. Using a finger or two is the most common method, but there are other far more effective and exciting ones to try too.

For example, press your thigh into her groin and grind it around. Or nibble on her vaginal lips through the material of her clothing or panties. Then, with her panties pulled down, you can brush your facial stubble gently against her skin or breathe slow, hot breaths onto her genitals. In the previous step, you set the stage. Here you set the scene, getting everything ready for the pivotal parting of the curtain.

Locate the sweet spot (aka the clitoris). The quickest and easiest way to do this is to follow her inner vaginal lips from the bottom (closest her anus) to the top (closest her belly button). Above where you are now is what's known as the clitoral hood, which is just what it sounds like. It's a horizontal fold of flesh that surrounds the part you're seeking. Pull it up gently and you'll see your prize – the little knob of flesh that is her clitoris, what is to become the focal point of your oral ministrations.

But first…reconnoiter. Stroke it with your thumb. Caress the hood covering it. And read her responses. Different women have different levels of sensitivity with their clitorises. Some like it hard, some like it soft. Some like it fast, some like it slow. Some like it erratic, some like it steady.

Some like it being stimulated directly, some prefer indirect stimulation of the area surrounding it. Communicate with her to find out what she likes if you can't tell from her reactions, but not by asking simply if she does or doesn't like it. Ask that and she'll almost certainly say she does just so as not to hurt your tender feelings. Instead ask her if she wants it harder or softer? Slower or faster? Then she can help guide you to knowing how exactly to please her better.

Explore other forms of stimulation too. All the while avoiding the temptation to just stick in a finger and simulate intercourse, experiment with various other ways of stimulating that area. You've tried touching, pressing, and stroking or rubbing.

Now try blowing, tapping, and changing up the direction of your stroking. Notice you haven't even touched lips or tongue to her genitals yet, despite that your objective is to eat her out. That's because women need lots of priming to really get "there", and that's precisely what you're doing now. Priming her. Building up the sexual energy within her to the point where she's practically begging for more (or maybe even actually begging for it).

Stick out your tongue and lick. Once she's plenty moist down there, maybe dripping wet even, it's finally time for some oral action. Start by licking her labial lips. Lick them up and down and in circles, all the while avoiding the temptation to use your tongue like a secondary penis.

That comes later. For now you're just brushing your tongue across her sensitive parts, exploring like a painter explores his canvas with his paintbrush. Explore her responses to different degrees of pressure and different paces. Use long, broad, sweeping strokes punctuated by light, staccato flicks of the tongue in places.

See what it does to her when you manage to simultaneously stimulate her inner lips and clitoris with the same movement. The key here is to change it up. Just because she seems to love one particular action you're doing, don't let that lead you into complacency. Don't linger too long in the same spot with the same motions and risk her getting too used to the sensations. Kiss, tickle, prod, suck…make each sensation a surprise, each one different from the one before.

Then go back repeatedly to the ones she seems to have particularly enjoyed and thrill her with another small dose of the same. That's how to keep turning her on more and more as you proceed – by giving it to her, and taking it away; by keeping her guessing, constantly surprising her with what you do next. Climaxing is very much about losing control, and when you keep changing things up this way, you delicately and progressively make her release control of her body over to you, which in turn makes her that much more able to achieve the kind of release most men are reputed to be incapable of provoking.

When she stops grinding her hips and suddenly arches her pelvis up, tensing her abdomen, and holding that position still, then you know you've hit jackpot.