The Price of Dating Women: How Men Can Stop Paying for Everything and Still Get Dates

If dating feels like a financial sink-hole for you then you must be like every other guy on the planet. Because for some reason, it’s seen as part and parcel of the human mating dance that men have to go to the poorhouse in order to land a mate.

It makes hooking up especially hard in modern times when the economy is on a cliff’s edge and most guys’ finances are already in a rockslide halfway to hitting bottom as it is. Try to compete in the dating arena and the average man might as well sign away his retirement to get a girl to go out with him.

Men pay for:

• dinners
• drinks
• cab fare
• shows/concerts/entertainment
• flowers/gifts

And even in today’s liberated culture, it’s a rare event to find the woman buying the man gifts and taking the man out, all expenses included. What gives? And how to get out of this vicious self-defeating pattern?

Half the single guys on the scene feel obligated to pay for all the various and sundry components of dating women. The other half feel compelled to do it – as it is considered their responsibility, after all, to show her a good time. Fail to do that, and you won’t be seeing her for a second or third date; you’ll be seeing her out with some other more monetarily-endowed poor slob.

The dirty truth is that men pay for nearly everything on a date and in a relationship because they feel that they must. They have to keep footing the bill or else risk losing any opportunity of companionship and sexual satisfaction at all.

Is that to say they’re buying their women’s attention? If it is, it’s only because the women are selling it. And not at a discount either.

But if you don’t “put up” then what have you got left? Most men don’t believe that they’re not attractive enough physically or on the inside to get an attractive woman to be interested in them without the pseudo-bribes of exotic meals, lavish gifts, and spectacular entertainment at no cost to her.

What they don’t realize, however, is that most women are hip to their game. Women are extremely perceptive creatures, and if you’re paying for things as a lure for her affections, as bait to catch her on your hook, chances are she notices.

She notices that you would only be spending all this money on her if you were after something, if you wanted something in return. Which you do – let’s be honest.

Sure, women like to be treated to things. Don’t we all? And how many women are really going to refuse a man’s generous offer to give her free fun and nice things? That doesn’t mean she hasn’t caught on to what you’re really after.

And that’s where so many men miss the mark.

Because she’ll have no problem enjoying all the goodies you’re throwing at her and still have zero intention of dating you further, not to mention sleeping with you. She can take what you offer with her left hand and push you away with her right, and never think twice about either. How can she justify that kind of treatment?

It’s that she knows your intentions aren’t pure. She knows you’re “taking her out” (as opposed to “going out together”, for example) because you feel obliged or compelled to, as bait or a bribe. So in her mind, it’s your own fault if you lose your shirt and get nothing for it in return. She didn’t ask you to blow all your money on her. But neither is she going to refuse to accept your costly kidnesses.

“Intention” is the key. None of the above reasons for treating a woman to a good time are good ones because none of them are about her; they’re all about you – paying out in hopes she’ll put out in return (figuratively or literally). It’s when you take a woman out because you want her to enjoy herself, buy her gifts because you want her to feel appreciated and have nice things – No Strings Attached – that you can win her over (maybe even win her heart).

That’s easier said than done, however, as many men have gotten quite accustomed to paying for everything and still not getting anything in return. But that’s not the same thing as doing it with no strings attached. That’s just failing time and again to get the string you’ve always been after.

No strings attached means that your reward is nothing more than the pleasant time you have in her company, the expression of surprise or glee on her face when she sees what you’ve got for her. If the joy is truly in the giving and nowhere else, then you might actually be able to stand out in her mind as a real treasure worth holding on to.

Best of all, when you come from this selfless, giving place, you don’t even have to bust your hump to give big, expensive things to woo her. Just your presence, your natural way of being, the fact that you clearly care about her for her and not just for what she may give you or do for you, is more reason for her to go gaga over you than most men she’s encountered in her entire dating life.

One big trick for avoiding having to pay for everything on a date and yet still have her smiling is to get out of the bad habit of asking her if you could “take her out”. Taking someone out implies that it’s your treat.

But if you mention that you’re going out anyway and she is welcome to join you, then there’s no longer an implicit implication of you paying for it. It shows that you’re your own man, with your own life, and you are perfectly content as you are, not needing anything from her in order to be happy or feel better about yourself. And that’s a message so rare and uncommonly appealing to women that conveying it to a woman is worth it’s weight in gold.

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