Feel like your man’s going a little cold on you? Or maybe you just want to surprise him by adding even more spice to your already great sex life? Either way, the following sex tips for women will have your man eating out of the palm of your hand and begging for more.
- Dress for the occasion: Enough can’t be said about the allure of a woman scantily clad in sexy lingerie. And don’t think just because you’re not a poster model that he wouldn’t be jumping out of his skin if he saw you walk out in a skimpy Victoria’s Secret number. Men may complain about all the money they’re earning that their girlfriends and wives are spending. But lingerie is one expense he’ll be glad to work into the budget.
- Start with a massage. It’s not just for horny high schoolers anymore. No, seriously. You and he may both know where it’s going from the beginning, but that doesn’t make a sensual massage any less sensual, any less erotic, and any less tantalizing. As you soothe his aches and pains and further and further relax his body, he’ll just be getting hotter and hotter anticipating what’s coming next.
- Non-genital stimulation: Men are fixated on their penises. There’s no new information there. But you don’t have to be so single-minded too. You can bring him to levels of elation he may not even realize is possible just by kissing, touching, caressing, stroking, etc. those parts of his body other than his groin that, whether he knows it or not, are his erogenous zones. Each man (each person, for that matter) has them, and while the “usual suspects” – ears, scalp, underarms, feet, neck, chest, back, arms – are all the same, which of these are his particular zones of erogenous-ness is left for you to figure out. Experiment. Watch his responses. Inquire, even. Learn what gets him hot without getting him off right away. How fun for both of you!
- Good old fashioned hand-job: You’ve got to remember, guys grew up with masturbation as their predominant hobby since puberty (or before!). And pretty much all of them have spent hours on end while engaged in this favorite activity fantasizing of it being someone else’s hand on their pensises instead of theirs. You can make that fantasy come true! The hand can provide a tighter grip with more pressure than most vaginas (and anuses too), along with a greater variety of angles, movements, and positions. And when a guy gets to experience this blessed sensation without having to use his own hands, it drives him literally out of his mind with rapture.
- More oral sex, please: It’s a major sticking point in men’s inner and outer relationship dialogue – whether a girl gives blow jobs and how often. Many women are squeamish about sticking their mouths around a guy’s member, some to the point of being turned off completely just by the thought of it. But the thing is – guys crave it! They covet it. Sometimes it’s all they can think about. And all you really have to do to get past any icky feeling you may have about it is to ask him to get in the shower and clean off that area really well first. If you tell him why you’re having him do this, he’ll be soaping up faster than you can get down on your knees. Never underestimate the power of fellatio to make a guy go ga-ga over you.
- Doggy-style: Ordinarily this connotes images of anal sex (and possibly grimaces of discomfort you may or may not have associated with it). But the rear-entry sexual position is just as effective for vaginal intercourse as for anal. It’s the position of choice for 99% of the animal kingdom, which means our biosystems are innately keyed into that pose as being a naturally desirable form of pleasure – for both of you. For him, he gets the deepest penetration possible (not to mention the thrill of the new and “forbidden” angle) while you get much greater odds of his penis actually hitting your G-spot. So you don’t get to see each other’s faces; he’s got his eyes closed half the time anyway, right?
- Role-reversal: No, we’re not saying you should try and penetrate him, for a change (though that could be fun too). This tip relates to romance, often thought to be strictly something men do and women appreciate. But you’d be surprised how many men would love to have the tables turned on them and receive a little romance from their ladies instead of always giving it to them. Has he ever half-kiddingly complained, all doggy-eyed, that you never bring him flowers. Well, he was only half-kidding. How come he’s always the one buttering you up? Don’t you think he’d be just as surprised and touched to receive a romantic surprise from you as you are when you receive one from him? Try being the one to set the mood for your lovemaking instead of him. You set the candles, the music, etc. Let him have nothing to do other than show up and perform. You may both be pleasantly surprised at how well he does at it when you do.
- Play games: Not head games, mind you. We were thinking something more along the lines of strip poker, Truth or Dare, I Never, or – heaven’s to betsy – maybe a drinking game!?
- Use props: Ice can bring some steam to your sizzle. Sheepskin, satin, and silk feel even softer and smoother rubbing against his hardness. Massage his back with a rolling pin. Let him tickle your feet (and 2,000 other parts) with a feather duster.
Let all of these ideas be just the starting point for you and your boyfriend or husband. Try them all, for sure. But also let them trigger your creativity to come up with new and exciting ways of your own to bring imagination and passion back into your bedroom. Trust us - your man will thank you for it.
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Some women are squimish about oral sex ? Really? Maybe in the 90s. As a married man I find this article not only useless, but misinforming to women. First Doggy style is nothing new. If it is new to you then you need remedial lessons on the basics, and clearly need to talk to a therapist about any issues or misconceptions you may have about actually participating in the sex you are having with your husband. Second if we want a hand job there is no one on earth that can do it better than us. We have been practicing for this our whole lives. So leave it to the experts. Third sexy clothing is only sexy on a sexy woman. If you are overweight or underweight face reality and go to the gym, this point should not be ignored. A snickers bar in a pretty new box is still a snickers bar. If you are in denial about the way your body looks, the new “sexy” cloths will not help you, and before anyone says or thinks “well my husband should love me the way I am”
Just know that he does, but this is about pleasing him, not about feeling like you are pleasing him for your own peace of mind. Put in the effort and lose the extra weight. Nothing will improve his moral and satisfaction more than to have sex with a sexy woman, it will motivate him to go to the gym himself. Fourth once you lose the weight and become his goddess, save the money on the cloths and buy him a 21 day aged steak. Cook it while wearing nothing but a short t shirt. And then give him oral sex after he is done eating. Sounds simple right thats because it is. The trick with this is to not ask him to reciprocate. Just let him be and let him enjoy. After that give him a back rub, arm rub etc.. the way he likes and you are done. If you are working on losing weight dont worry no one is perfect but you can still give oral, cook a steak , and rub a back. This will bring more pleasure than any laced underwear will. Substitute the steak for his other favorite dish if the need arises(If he does not like steak, you should assume that he may not be heterosexual) but try this trick, and see if he does not have a new found affection for you after you are done giving him these three surprises. Prep time 30 minutes total length of activity about 2-3 hours. Total cost about 20-25 dollars(You will have money left over to drag him to some movie he thinks is stupid some other day) . Cheaper than buying “sexy cloths” and it will keep your relationship fresh and honest because if you are overweight he wont have to tell you that he loves you in those cloths and its the best surprise you could give him. Remember work with what you have and use common sense. You will save time, money and you will really have a happy and pleased husband. So now that you are armed with The please your husband tecnique developed by the World famous sexoligist Dmitry Barash (patent pending). You have to know how to carry it out, so let’s start with the most important thing. The food! The steak that you serve him should taste good. Common sense really, but you would be surprised at how many mistakes you can make, if you are not informed. So the steak should be a good cut of meat. A butcher shop or high end grocery store such as whole foods will have it, your local acme will not. So prepare to spend about 20-25 dollars on this steak still cheaper than going out to eat. Then the next obvious thing is to make it if you are not confident that you can make a delicous steak dont. Find a reputable place that will make it for you and then have it dropped off at your house or go pick it up. Buy it and not make it myself? You ask. Where is the love in that? You ask. well if you can cook, then it would be more thoughtfull if you made it, but if you can’t cook, nothing would be worse than taking a good cut of meat, ruining it and expecting your husband to actually eat it. Let alone derive any pleasure from it. So were clear the steak has to taste good. Your good intentions cannot fill a stomach. So if your going to do it. Do it right!
So now we have a great tasting steak, but where you serve it is just as essential as how good it tastes. You serve it at home wearing a short t shirt and nothing else (if you have kids..Throw them out of the house, or if its more convenient daycare or a sitter might work to. Just have them gone so he can enjoy his surprise. The time this happens should be when he regularly eats a normal meal(that is where the suprise part comes in) not a weekend or a convenient day for you but on a day it will please him most. A work day, school day etc.. a great end to a hard or stressfull day. So by now he has finished what should be a great tasting steak. He is already a happy and full man(if you are going to all the trouble with the steak make sure there is enough to fill him, nothing worst than a steak tease)So lets move on to step 2 Oral sex although you cant outsource this service(if you can thats fine to)but I am assuming you have to do it yourself.
If you dont know how…learn. But how? You ask. With rigorous and constant practice. If you have not mastered this art, and dont have alot of spare time,but still want to please your man sooner than later. It is ok. This is one area where the thought does count. Just use common sense. If your husband bites you anywhere, be it your arm or your head it is going to hurt.(if you are confused about why I just said that, then give up now, you clearly lack the intelligence it takes to function as an adult in this society. But if you are not confused about teeth and what not to do, then you are on your way to giving great oral sex.So now just do it. Once it is done move on to step 3. The back rub why a backrub? You ask. Now that your husband has had a delicous steak, and great oral sex. He is confused, and thinking that you want him to reciprocate. This can cause frustration(because once the deed is done he does not want to do anything for you, himself, or anyone. He just wants to lay down and sleep or watch tv, but he feels guilty about not having the energy needed to return the favor) So step 3 is just for that. It will relieve any tension he may have, and will reassure him you are just trying to please him and this will.
So step 1 feed the man
step2 Give the man oral sex (when your done dont cuddle or ask to make love this is not about you)
Step3 let him relax
An extra tip while giving him a back rub, would be to not ask about what is going on in a movie or show he is watching. He knows you dont care what it’s about. He also knows your only talking because the tv is getting his attention at the moment. Well there you have it, the most advanced scientific approach to pleasing your husband on the planet!
Damn. I’m definitely going to have to try this.
I wish all married ladies would read this and put it to memory…..because this is exactly what brings your married guy…..knocking at my door…….A twenty dollar Camie and he is buying me lunch……just talking about oral anything and he is asking to go home with me for lunch…..I am working on finding a guy that isn’t just wanting a way out…….I guess we all have issues!
you’ve saved my marriage!!!! thanks!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been CELIBATE for 5 years. I am interested in a man, and think perhaps he feels the same. I do not want to be a disappointment in bes. I want to PLEASE and make him so satisfied he want more and more